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Hallows may be over, but the Demons have arrived, just in time for National Adoption Awareness Month

Baby Love Child — Tue, 02 Nov 2010 00:01:21 +0000

First a quick Blogkeeping note:

In light of my blogging marathon last month and other writing I’m working on, BLC the blog is going to be somewhat quieter this month and my posts probably far shorter.

That said, we’re now in the thick of the dreaded month long adoption marketing extravaganza known as “National Adoption Awareness Month” (what some term Adoption Beware-ness month,) and as readers know, in the face of industry propaganda I’m hardly one to hold my tongue.

So rest assured, there will be some posts this month but many will be short and to the point. I’ve no doubt plenty of other Bastards and (original) parents will be going into writing overdrive, so be sure to spend some of this month listening.

As has become an annual custom over the past several years, Pound Pup Legacy has offered up an appropriate kick off to this month’s festivities in the form of the Demons of Adoption Awards.

As I blogged last month when voting began this time around, all the nominees were certainly worthy of the award in their own right, but when the voting had finally concluded, one rose to the top of the pack for the sheer cravenness of its “demonic” activities.

This year’s winner is of course, (drumroll please…)

the Joint Council on International Children’s Services (JCICS.)

See the official Pound Pup Legacy announcement:

Joint Council on International Children’s Services recipient of Demons of Adoption Awards 2010

(Though it should be noted, LDS Family Services lost this year by mere votes, running neck and neck until the very end.)

Be sure to read the full Pound Pup Legacy profile piece, as the profile is a very well written recap of just what it is that makes JCICS so very worthy of the award and the attention.

I can think of other forms of attention they and their member agencies should also be afforded, perhaps by law enforcement and congressional committees, but not surprisingly such are hardly the sorts of attention they might enjoy.

For now they should simply sleep better at night knowing that a number of the “little bundles of joy” their industry “re-homed”, along with other voters such as Mothers, felt them worthy enough to expend their one and only vote upon.

Understanding that they engender such deep feelings from the people on the receiving end of their work should mean a great deal to them.

As JCICS no doubt knows, it takes lots of hard work to become loathed enough to reach the top of a pile of Demons like this year’s candidates. After all, it isn’t every organization that can lay claim to having been voted more “Demonic” in the adoption realm than the Mormon church!

Pound Pup Legacy has also done us all a great service in that rather than spread across the various blogs and down in people’s individual posts, PPL has begun a central repository of the names of adoptees who have been abused and killed by their adopters in the past year.

The repository is named “Rohnor’s Angels 2010” in honor of Christian Rohnor who

may have been the first documented case of lethal abuse in an adoptive family

(At least here in America in the modern period.)

On September 28, 1854. the New York Times ran an article with the title: Murder of an Adopted Child in New-Orleans, describing the abuse and subsequent death of Christian Rohnor, a two-year-old boy, adopted by a couple from New Orleans. Christian Rohnor was locked up in the attic, starved to the point of being completely emaciated, and eventually beaten to death by his adoptive father.

Those of you who know me know I have little use for either demons or angels in terms of a political lexicon relating to these matters. But as these particular “demons” come out at the end of October each year, I’m willing to enjoy their purely metaphoric value.

As for “angels,” again, I’m not particularly enamored of such mythical concepts, but in this case, particularly as I understand what metaphorical content Pound Pup Legacy is trying to instill in a broader audience, I’m willing to accept such language from a purely pragmatic perspective.

On a more personal note though, having spent time in cemeteries around N’awlins (and taken my camera along for the trip, resulting in pix like this) I’m willing to utilize such on the basis of both their artistic merit and cultural symbolic value.

The tragic roll is made up of five names so far this year:

Rohnor’s Angels 2010:

Colin David Jones: Killed, Christmas Eve 2009, Loganville, Georgia
Lydia Schatz: Tortured to death, February 6, 2010, Paradise, California
Tristan Dosdall: Beaten to death, March 24, 2010, Peyton, Colorado
Collin Parker William Holdgrafer: Drowned, June 12, 2010, Andrew, Iowa
Kairissa XingJing Mark: Beaten to death, July 1, 2010, Mount Juliet, Tennessee

Be sure to visit the page over time and explore the links to the individual children’s stories.

Sadly if there’s any one thing those of us in this field have learned to count on, it’s that lists like this have a terrible tendency to grow over time.

So let us vow to remember these young victims on this, el Dia de los Muertos.

On the passing of Howard Metzenbaum

Baby Love Child — Fri, 14 Mar 2008 05:04:11 +0000

First, I advise readers to read my brief diary on Daily Kos about how I primarily relate to and remember the former Ohio Senator.

AFTERWARDS, read down through the rest of this.

On some of the comment threads on dKos and elsewhere about the Senator’s passing, expressions of gratitude from adoptive parents have appeared a few places. So tonight I took some time to write about the former Senator and his adoption specific legacy.

Let me state from the outset, that I am an adult, adopted in Ohio. Further I support the restoration of adoptee original birth certificates which the state has for many of us sealed away from us; I support open records.

So, since others have brought it up, I feel it’s important to say a few words.

Yes, the former Senator was involved in many aspects of adoption related legislation, as an example, Metzenbaum sponsored the Multi-Ethnic Placement Act of 1994 which barred racial discrimination in adoptive placements.

That has led to ongoing discussion about whether or not cross-ethnic placements have been a positive thing or a damaging thing.

(Me? I’m not touching that one with a ten foot pole. Being legally barred from knowing my ancestry, but being darn clear on the paleness of my own skin, I just don’t feel I have terribly much to say on the subject, other than how some of the orphan train placements were little more than a form of forced labor for some children and how ‘indian boarding schools’ were well, in my opinion, nothing short of an intentional form of cultural genocide.)

Instead I want to narrow in on what I feel to be the unfortunate aspects of the Senator’s adoption legacy, yes written from where I sit, as an adult denied my own birth certificate by State law and ongoing State interference. That said, no doubt your mileage may vary.

Being an adult adopted in Ohio, some of his work on adoption is one of the very few places I had some disagreements with him.

Particularly his work in the late 80’s on the Abandoned Infants Assistance Act of 1988, a forerunner to today’s “Baby Moses Laws”/”Baby dump laws”/”Legalized infant Abandonment laws”/”Baby Safe Haven Laws” (spearheaded by the National Council for Adoption, an adoption industry lobby created specifically to ensure adopted people’s original birth certificates remain forever sealed to them, after already having been confiscated by the State upon our adoptions, thus lobbying to permanently erase our genetic and historic identities.)

While the bill was being done in the name of helping children with AIDS ‘abandoned’ in hospitals, it was a NCFA lobbied bill that created precedents, both in terms of children labeled “abandoned” and in terms of State grants to adopters, which today, at NCFA’s urging has expanded greatly into tax breaks for adoption etc. (Unfortunately, the primary beneficiaries of such tax breaks it turns out are not those most in need of such to finance an otherwise impossible adoption, but instead the tax breaks are going to the the already wealthy.)

Again, while all this is being done ‘for the sake of the children,’ NCFA with it’s extensive connections to the Heritage Foundation, Family Research Council, Anti-abortion Catholic groups, WAL*MART and Mormons has been no friend to adopted people or first parents.

And unfortunately, Howard Metzenbaum, like many well intentioned people was a friend to NCFA, perhaps not understanding that NCFA represented the industry, not adopted people or our families (plural).

Sadly, it was perhaps the most glaring example of where Howard sided with industry rather than the directly affected, and I can’t tell you how deeply that saddened me (read my diary from earlier tonight on Senator Metzenbaum’s passing if for one instant you think he wasn’t a personal hero to me.)

His ties to NCFA were heartbreaking to me, yet it’s likely that no one ever explained to him precisely what it was he was supporting. The first adopted babies of the baby-scoop-era didn’t reach adulthood until roughly 1960, and many didn’t find their political voice on adoption issues and sealed records, nor really found organizations etc until the 70’s and 80’s.

NCFA awarded “Friend of Adoption” awards that eventually grew into their “Adoption hall of fame”. Howard Metzenbaum was one of the first recipients back in 1982.

Am I blaming him? No, at the time NCFA was working very hard to appear ‘non-partisan’ and ‘evenhanded’ in its political ties. Unfortunately, that was not, and to this day ever more clearly is not what NCFA is. Now that the former head of NCFA, Bill Pierce has died, and wingnut infrastucture has become yet more institutionalized, NCFA’s ties to that ever developing wingnut infrastructure have grown and become far more visible.

NCFA was founded after the Draft Model State Adoption Act (DMSAA) was produced in 1979 by a Carter administration advisory committee. The adoption industry (agencies, Catholic Charities, politically connected powerful agencies such as Gladney in TX- which today has many Bush family ties) studied the DMSAA, saw the “open records” provisions, and by means of re-entrenching their permanent secrecy stance (which conveniently covers any misdeeds they might have been involved in) reacted by creating NCFA to lobby and ‘educate’ in Washington.

I consider it tragic that Senator Metzenbaum, who so often sided with the whistleblowers, the disadvantaged, and in his abortion access advocacy, the side of womyn who were pregnant, was convinced to champion to very legislation that silenced womyn’s voices, and disempowered adopted children, now adults by siding with those who held real control in so many situations- the industry.

All of which is to say, that when people use words like ‘adoption’ rather than jumping to conclusions that they must be ‘doing good work’, it becomes that much more important to do due diligence.

On the other hand, was Sen. Metzenbaum aware of who he had sided with? Was he pro-sealed records?

I hope not, for if he personally was, it creates a very uncomfortable ‘exception’ to the rest of his life’s work.

At this point we’ll never know. That doesn’t mean I can’t celebrate the man for so MANY of the other things he did, yet question this one area.

He will always be, to a degree a hero of mine, but when it came to adoption, best intentions aside, his actions and the ‘legitimacy’ his presence provided are to me at least, heartbreaking.